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Gender & gender-based violence (GBV)

Sex is biology; gender is the roles, expectations and power a society attaches to it. GBV is violence that flows along those power lines, and in Nepal it is one of the most common wounds a counselor will ever sit across from.

If you are in danger right now: call 112 / 100. Women's helpline 1145 (NWC "Khabar Garaun"); OCMC at the nearest hospital. After sexual violence, medical care helps at any time; HIV prevention works best within 72 hours and emergency contraception within 120 hours.

Concepts, forms, and the counselor's response

CTEVT PSC curriculum

Core distinctions the curriculum tests:

  • Sex vs gender: sex is biology; gender is the roles, expectations, and power a society attaches to it
  • Gender roles (who cooks, who inherits) and gender needs (practical vs strategic)
  • Equality (same treatment) vs equity (fair treatment that closes gaps)
  • Sexuality as a normal dimension of the person

Forms of GBV:

  • Physical
  • Sexual
  • Emotional or psychological
  • Economic (denying money, property, work)
  • Harmful traditional practices: in Nepal: child marriage, dowry-related violence, chhaupadi (menstrual exclusion), witchcraft ("boksi") accusations, and trafficking

Causes run through power inequality, norms that excuse violence, impunity, and alcohol as an accelerant: never as an excuse.

Survivor-centred principleIn practice
Safety firstIs it safe to go home tonight? Safe place, safe timing of sessions, danger assessment before anything else
ConfidentialityRecords coded; information shared only with consent, except child protection, imminent danger to life, or a legal duty, and then only the minimum needed: a leak can be lethal
Respect & autonomyThe survivor decides: whether to report, leave, stay; your job is options, not orders
Non-discriminationBelief, not blame. Never "why didn't you leave?", never "what were you wearing?"
Referral, coordinatedHealth, as soon as possible: within 72 hours for HIV prevention (PEP), within 120 hours for emergency contraception, and care still helps at any time; police/OCMC one-stop crisis management centres, safe houses, legal aid: with consent at every step
Nepal

Nepal's NDHS surveys have consistently found that a large share of ever-married women report experiencing spousal violence, most never seeking help. The system pieces you must know by name: OCMC (One-stop Crisis Management Centres in hospitals), the National Women Commission's 1145 "Khabar Garaun" helpline, judicial committees at the local level, and safe houses run by organisations like WOREC and Saathi. Marital rape is a crime in Nepal. Couple counselling is contraindicated while violence is active: see Approaches & forms.

Test yourself

1) Distinguish gender equality from equity with a Nepali schooling example. 2) A survivor discloses last night's beating but forbids you to tell anyone; her danger signs are high. Walk through what survivor-centred practice allows, what safety requires, and how you hold both. 3) Name the four GBV forms hidden in: "He took her wages, mocked her in front of guests, and she sleeps in the shed during her period."

Model answer: mapping the four forms

The sentence "He took her wages, mocked her in front of guests, and she sleeps in the shed during her period" hides four forms of violence.

Economic violence: he took her wages, denying her money and control over property.

Emotional or psychological violence: mocking her in front of guests is public humiliation that strips her of dignity and standing in the community.

Physical violence: she sleeps in the shed because she is not safe inside the home, which implies physical harm or the threat of it.

Cultural practice: the shed during her period points to menstrual exclusion, known locally as chhaupadi, a harmful traditional practice that the curriculum names.

Now danger? 100 / 112 then 1145, safe person Same day OCMC, hospital helps at any time 72 h HIV prevention PEP, inside 3 days 120 h contraception emergency, inside 5 days Days police, committee safe house if needed Weeks counselling follow-up, her choices Safety first, then medical care, then law and shelter, then counselling. The survivor decides the pace and the path; the counselor knows every door by name.
The response timeline. Two windows are clocks: HIV prevention within 72 hours and emergency contraception within 120. Everything else, including medical care itself, helps at any time, so a late disclosure is never a reason not to refer.
Key points
  1. Sex is biology; gender is the roles and power a society attaches to it. GBV runs along those power lines and is very common in Nepal.
  2. Safety first, then choice: the survivor decides; the counselor knows OCMC, 1145, judicial committees and safe houses by name.
  3. After sexual violence, medical care helps at any time; HIV prevention works best within 72 hours, emergency contraception within 120.
Quick check

Three friendly questions to settle what you just read. This is reassurance, not a test: a wrong tap is part of learning, and you can try again.

Sex vs gender:

Who decides whether a survivor reports to police?

Taking a wife's wages and blocking her from work is:

Learn more

Pick one, not all.

GuideWHO: "Caring for women subjected to violence" (LIVES: Listen, Inquire, Validate, Enhance safety, Support); a five-step first-line response made for non-specialists.
ReportNepal Demographic and Health Survey: domestic violence chapter: the country's core evidence base on GBV.
DocumentaryIndia's Daughter (BBC, 2015): on sexual violence and the attitudes behind it in South Asia; heavy: screen with care and support available.

Learning about the mind can stir the mind. If something here sat heavily, saying it aloud to someone you trust helps.